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In line with this, further research revealed that the less esteem a woman has for her husband (ex.: the more she thinks he's unattractive) the more likely he is to use cost-inflicting behaviors (Holden, 2014). In short, statements like "i went out with other women to make her jealous" or "i told other guys she was stupid (to make her appear less desirable)" were rated much less effective in comparison with "i was helpful when she really needed it" and "i told her i loved her". What David Buss found is that benefit-provisioning behaviors tend to be perceived as much more effective than cost-inflicting behaviors. The logic is to keep the partner investing by making defection appear to be a risky-strategy (Under this definition the so called Dread Game is usually what science would consider a cost-inflicting set of behaviors).
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cost-inflicting behavior however, has to do with threats of violence if the partner cheats, flirting with other prospects to make the partner angry, stalking, manipulation, etc. The idea is to show how much you're a good partner to give them reasons to stay with you. He identified 109 different behaviors, and later divided into 2 main categories: benefit-provisioning behaviors and cost-inflicting behaviorsīenefit-provisioning behaviors involves positive things like offering gifts to your partner, being caring and loving to your partner, enhancing your attractiveness, all with the purpose of keeping your partner from straying. So, what does science has to say about this?ĭavid Buss (1988), conducted the first study on the type of behaviors that people perform to keep their partners from straying, which he called "mate retention tactics". Under TRP definition, this kind of behavior "keeps the girl in love with you and there's no threat of her leaving". Dread Game is a common technique popularized by the Red Pill that promotes the idea that, in order to keep your girlfriend or wife sexually and romantically interested on you, you need to act desinterested, become flaky, flirt with other women in front of her, act abusive and accusing her of being "needy" and "delusional" if she calls on your bad behavior.